I’m so moved by this, thank you very much. That was a painful discussion, so I’m also sorry for the way I didn’t show up as well as I could have. I’m still sorting through what happened in that discussion and why. But, especially as I’m a great admirer of your work, I really appreciate your note.

much love to you donna.
xo

Thatgirlhasissues, I owe you a huge apology. I thought you were making up excuses for NOWHC and said some awful things. I went back and reread everything you said and it was simply the TRUTH. Every word you wrote was true, you were the only one who had any clue about what was really going on. Everything I said was ignorant and cruel and I wish I could take it all back. I am so sorry.

You too, bfp. I was harsh with you too and had no right to say the things I did to either of you. I am sorry for that.

I’ve been thinking a lot about my relationship to my political community. My beloved sistahs who have essentially given form to most of my adulthood. Yet, the older I get, I’ve noticed how increasingly awkward I have felt in my community. I’m still in love with all of them, so rich, so intense, so beautiful and brilliant they are. But I’ve also noticed, in our urgency to unravel the oppression that has ravaged us and our communities, we sometimes develop some hard boundaries about political conformity. I’m worried about our ability to expand our ideas and disagree with one another without thinking that the person stepping outside is…well…I’m not sure what the right word is. Stigmatized, I think, might be one way to think of it.

I have had to think about creating loving and flexible boundaries to negotiate the tension of conformity for survival — and nonconformity for survival. Perhaps, in any vision of liberatory community, an element of loving and flexible boundaries might be key.

http://cheshire-bitten.livejournal.com/221594.html

rest.

I keep thinking that

rest.

and this post just gave me a way to do so.

yes.