So, I’ve got myself all worked up and upset over latest crap. I am going to attempt an intervention on myself. The computer is being turned off, I will not be back until I post again on Monday for my walk with Jess. I am not moderating comments, but I am not keeping up with them. So if you have posted here on this blog before, your comment will go through. If you haven’t, you will have to wait until Monday before I will be back to unmoderate your comments.
Take care of yourselves,
bfp
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February 20th, 2009 at 12:03 pm #
I don’t have your email, otherwise I would have sent this privately, but go look at my (blog) cute little nephew in guatemala and mackinac. it’s hard to do anything but smile looking at him.
February 20th, 2009 at 12:50 pm #
You take care too, bfp and have some good walking.
The weather is like spring here (even the bullfrogs are fooled) and am looking forward to hiking and my first Anarchist festival (which has a workshop on free media that I might check out). But walking’s great for centering yourself when the world around you is spinning.
February 20th, 2009 at 2:11 pm #
I got my emails from some profs at the local uni which is organizing “teachers against occupation” and I must have been in hibernation but one of the faculty members on the list was Andrea Smith. She’s in Media and Cultural Studies and she just started teaching here.
February 20th, 2009 at 2:23 pm #
Good for you! Take a deep long breath this weekend and breathe life back in mujer. Your blog is so jammed I had to shutdown the browser and empty the cache just to move between posts and that cannot be a good sign for the drama brewing.
remember, we are all healing from colonial trauma that threatens to divide woc from woc and woman from woman when rage threatens to sink you, you have a right to let that wound heal, thru love, thru art, thru reading woc who’ve been there before, thru walking in solidarity with white women like your walks with Jess, thru the smiles on your kids faces, thru everything that breathes life and promise back into your precious soul. (If I was doing a woc orgnizers healing ourselves workshop in your area I’d give you a free ticket mujer. But I have faith in your resilence despite all the crap swarming around.)
February 20th, 2009 at 3:55 pm #
I may have commented once before. I don’t remember. In any case, I’ve been an irregular reader of bfp as she’s been recommended to me by a lot of fellow blog-readers I respect. Recently,though, I came down with a nasty virus and have been stuck home catching up on the blogosphere…. chola knifes, hmmm. Well, either my friends have also been rather irregular readers or they see some redeeming quality here that I can’t find.
First it’s the big bad “white feminists” and now she’s declaring war on those traitorous “reformist” (i.e. people who actually get shit done as opposed to sitting on their couches, eating ice cream and whining) women of color. Sorry, bfp, but I think you show yourself to be a tad histrionic and your periodic hissy fits do more to harm the causes you care about than help them (not that I think you really care, anyway. it’s really all about *you* and your mental problems).
I suggest you get a good therapist and get yourself together lest you think of coming back on Monday to spread more bile. That advice is just out of concern for the other pity-partiers who seem attracted to your less-successful new blog. Those of us with brains have already realized your irrelevance.
February 20th, 2009 at 4:06 pm #
Bear, you’re an asshole. An irregular-reading asshole who came here just to say that instead of letting go of whatever problems you have with bfp. And apparently, you could not allow her to recenter because you had to kick her. If that’s no ‘histrionic’ or trolling behavior, well, I don’t know what is.
February 20th, 2009 at 4:24 pm #
Insulting me doesn’t change the fact that bfp is a certified nutcase. If she spent half as much time covering newsworthy events like, oh, i don’t know the huge protests going down on the Mexican border, as she spends complaining about her chin hairs and attacking other (more intelligent, relevant, successful) women then maybe you’d have a point. And in regards to “letting go”, I suggest you go back to watching Oprah or Dr. Phil or reading whatever self-help guru shite that probably composes the majority of your cultural diet. The left is loosing, in part, because so many of us care more about our own infantile problems than the life-or-death struggles going on in the third world.
February 20th, 2009 at 4:28 pm #
Oh, and how could I forget: “recenter” ????!!!! This blog is truly a narcissists paradise.
February 20th, 2009 at 5:47 pm #
What the fuck are you talking about? It wasn’t an insult, it’s the truth. Get the fuck out. I mean seriously, are the ‘more intelligent, relevant and successful women’ blogging about that? Are you berating them for not talking about that? I doubt it because then you would have to worry about their legions of commenters, who are just as unconcerned and narcissistic coming down on you. But no, you pick on someone who’s kind of vulnerable. You’re just a concern troll. Fuck you.
February 20th, 2009 at 5:48 pm #
And I’m sorry bfp, I will stop now.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:06 pm #
bear…I can’t stop laughing. It really does piss you off that much that I talk about my chin hairs??? My chin hairs officially apologize to you.
Kisses.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:10 pm #
Nothing privilege hates more than us loving ourselves. Take time, space, and be glad they’re so eager to provide evidence of their own foolishness for future generations.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:11 pm #
BFP – you beautiful, beautiful person!
love and support.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:22 pm #
I’m gonna say this politely, cos it’s not my blog.
Do fuck off, Bear.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:39 pm #
I’m gonna say this impolitely, because–well.
Get the fuck out, Bear, and don’t let the door hit you on the ass on your way out. I don’t know what purpose you thought your insulting, ignorant nonsense would serve, but it’s a failure on all levels.
Go play somewhere else.
BFP, big hugs from me. I’m glad you’re taking a breather from this foolishness.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:40 pm #
I’m so glad Bear came along to make a humorous fuckstain of himself! That kinda lightened up the whole dreary situation.
Rest up, BFP. Do good by yourself. And I don’t mean like Bear, who will probably die of cardiac arrest while vaselining himself at his computer desk, god bless his little…heart. I mean, more like, walk outside and enjoy. Feel it. Breathe.
Peace.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:43 pm #
Take care of yourself, lovely.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:47 pm #
Bear,
So you read, what, two posts before deciding that you know BFP well enough to do armchair psych?
Oh yeah, BFP is the real narcissist here, since she comes to the blogs of complete strangers who she doesn’t even read and then proceeds to tell them how to run their lives because she OBVIOUSLY knows how to save the world.
*loves BFP and her narcissistic chin hairs*
February 20th, 2009 at 6:55 pm #
I LOVE YOU! *echo* I LOVE YOU LOVE YOU LOVEYOU LOVEYOU!!!!!!!!!!!
February 20th, 2009 at 6:57 pm #
Been following the latest blowup.
Do what you have to do to take care of yourself, bfp. Thank you for all your words, ever.
Bear, you’re an asshole – and what Kai, little light, and queen emily said.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:58 pm #
Aha, that’s what the name of that new virus was – Bearmouth flu!
bfp, I’m loving your walking series – as well as all the other writings – I hope at some point you (two) will turn put it into some sort of book form. Even though other writers /activists /worldchangers may be on different journeys and have a different focus, I imagine any number share the same self doubts, despite various triumphs, and need to center both themselves and their lives in order to more effectively save other lives and would love to see the progression of self and project as your walks with Jess continue.
I bet some even have chin hair!
February 20th, 2009 at 7:42 pm #
Bitches, please.
February 20th, 2009 at 7:45 pm #
1) Funny you assume I’m a dude.
2) No one has refuted anything I’ve said. Actually, you’ve just proven my point that you’re a bunch of self-help narcissists what with your flying to the defense of your dear leader’s feewings.
3) I hope I die masturbating, too.
4) Have fun “recentering”, ya dumb, irrelevant, unsuccessful, movement-destroying twats!
February 20th, 2009 at 7:45 pm #
hahahaha, bear. thank u. seriously. that was the *Best* reply ever.
February 20th, 2009 at 7:47 pm #
I didn’t think u were a dude, bear. I knew u were a chick.
and still. seriously. best reply EVER.
February 20th, 2009 at 7:50 pm #
I LOVE LOVE LOVE being a twat with hair on my chin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(p.s. “centering” was “going for a walk”)
OOOOOH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOS
THE TWAT WITH HAIRY CHIN IS WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
February 20th, 2009 at 7:50 pm #
::gets out the blow horn::
EVERYBODY GET IN UR HOUSES, TWAT IN MOTION, TWAT IN MOTION!!!!!!!!!!!!
February 20th, 2009 at 7:51 pm #
TWAT JUST TURNED WATCH OUT FOR THE CHIN!!!!!!!!!!!!! SHE’S GONNA SLICE US ALLLLLLLLL
February 20th, 2009 at 7:51 pm #
oooooooooooooh, the humanity!!!!!!!!!!
February 20th, 2009 at 7:57 pm #
Oh Bear. People went straight for the swears cos your “argument” was just read off an internet troll bingo card.
Sometimes people don’t engage with you cos you’re just a wanker with nothing meaningful to say.
You wanker.
February 20th, 2009 at 8:18 pm #
Now that I’ve sobered up, I feel a little silly about my behavior. I hope you had a nice walk, bfp. Later, trollops.
February 20th, 2009 at 8:20 pm #
Much love, sugar pie.
(don’t let the chin hair getcha on the way out!)
~kisses~
February 20th, 2009 at 9:28 pm #
again, bfp – you rock. i’m gonna go love me some chin hairs in the mirror before i head off to bed.
February 20th, 2009 at 10:40 pm #
Oooh, I’m a trollop! I always wanted to be a trollop.
February 20th, 2009 at 10:55 pm #
I think I’ll let my one chin hair grow out some.
February 21st, 2009 at 12:08 am #
Bear, are you Elizabeth Bear?
February 21st, 2009 at 12:21 am #
If little light can be a trollop, can I be a floozy? Please?
February 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am #
Donna, you’re the flooziest floozy that ever floozed
February 21st, 2009 at 1:06 pm #
People need to stop sippin’ on the Oppresinth. I hear it gives you hallucinations and kills brain cells.
February 21st, 2009 at 10:25 pm #
‘Trollop’ sounds like ‘dollop,’ like a dollop of whipped cream. Mmm.
It’s always nice to be reminded of how self-care really, really pisses off privileged jerks. Makes it much more enjoyable!
February 22nd, 2009 at 3:39 am #
I wonder why it’s “histrionic” and “narcissistic” to blog about your daily life (but only if you’re a woc blogger), but it’s neither of those things to troll a woc blog drunk?
February 22nd, 2009 at 6:08 am #
Wenches united with trollop and floozies checking in!
February 22nd, 2009 at 6:17 am #
raven’s eye
February 22, 2009
so i have been dreaming about blogs. the first dream was about a blog called: raven’s eye
and as i have been thinking deeply over the past few days about these dreams and visions, i felt compelled to say this:
we, as women of color, have been organizing ourselves for years on the internet. we have started blogs, and e-zines, social networking spaces, list serves, conferences, conversations, groups, websites, cd’s and more. we are incredibly prolific, visionary, each of us coming to this space with individual and collective visions of self-expression, survival, sexuality, business, teaching, learning, community, organizing, solidarity,art, dreams, healing, and love.
in my visions i kept seeing a women and transfolk of color blog. one that was updated daily with our news, analysis, announcements, personal reflections, conversations, and more. a location on the net where we, from our different perspectives and lives, are able to give voice to us. where we agree and disagree, and stay in conversation.
i see this blog as a part of the ongoing organizing and expression that we do both on- and off-line so well in the midst of our crazy, blessed lives.
and so i am sending this out into the ether asking what you think.
are there others who are interested in building such a space for women and transfolk of color?
i can offer a chance to see if this experiment could work. i have some free time to dedicate to the building of this site. a certain amount of knowledge of software and a willingness to learn more. a connection to some communities of color. and a desire to build with you.
please distribute this where you think appropriate.
and if you are interested please leave a comment at guerrillamamamedicine.wordpress.com
February 22nd, 2009 at 8:07 am #
@maia – I’m definitely interested, and am heading over to your blog to leave a comment.
@bfp – take care of yourself, too.
February 23rd, 2009 at 4:53 am #
just popping up to say hello. you are as wise as ever, i see. responding to negativity with compassion.
a letter is in the works. :->)
inspired by your strength and sending you so much love,
k8e
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:16 am #
bfp: can I borrow ‘twat in motion’ to be my new slogan? it’s kind of amazing. somebody needs to screenprint that onto a t-shirt with a bullhorn ASAP.
your laughter is contagious,
xo
February 23rd, 2009 at 6:29 pm #
ah so that was what all that chatter on the twitter was anoche.
Like a said mujer pure evil.
::muah::
February 24th, 2009 at 3:54 am #
-bfp- is too self-involved/New Agey and not serious enough…??
o lulz
hope you’re feeling better, bfp, take as much rest as you need.